The cornerstone of every relationship is communication. In order to be successful, both partners must be honest and straightforward with their opinions and feelings.
If something difficult needs to be said about a sensitive topic, there is a proper way to respectfully let your partner or spouse know your opinion.
Below are ten things that you should never say to your partner or spouse:
- Wow! That person is hot:
When you admire another person’s physical qualities, you are letting your partner think that you have wandering eyes. These statements are damaging to your relationship. Why? Because they feel so compared. Why did you choose him or her when you wanted to be with someone other than them? Instead, look at them and let them know how much you love them.
- You always/never do that:
If you are frustrated by your partner’s actions or lack of actions, try to let them know.
Instead of saying “you never help me clean the house”, try putting it this way “I feel we need to divide the daily chores more fairly”. Choose the right time to discuss a problem with them. Directly after work is not a good time. Sit together and have a mutually respectful conversation. Don’t point fingers at each other.
- Look, that is just who I am:
This statement lets your partner know that you are not willing to change in any way but you’d rather stick to whom you think you are. Basically, you’re saying, “if you love me, you won’t try to improve me” No one wants to be with someone whose main goal is to change them. When you let someone into your life, they encourage you to be the best person you can be.
- You’re making a big fuss out of nothing:
Are they blaming you for something? Patiently try and explain to them why they are incorrect or let them know that you will change your behavior. If you feel the need to make a statement, you should probably take a few steps back and look at the situation from their side.
- My ex used to do that:
Don’t ever fall into the trap of comparison. If your partner compares you to their previous relationships, you are headed for a big break-up. Your partner does not need to be compared to your ex in any way, shape or form.