My husband and I got into an argument and he left for almost 2 days.
He is 36 years of age, and I’m 29 years of age. We’ve been together for over a decade. We have a 7-month-old daughter.
In the past, we have normally resolved arguments by taking a few hours to cool off and discussing. However, this situation is different and I don’t know what to do.
We flew back from his parent’s house the day before yesterday. While we were picking up the bags, I leaned over and whispered to him that it’s sexy to watch him lift the bags off the conveyor belt. Our daughter was asleep in the stroller when this happened, and I whispered quietly so she wouldn’t have heard me even if she were awake.
He snapped at me really loudly and said:
“do NOT say those things in front of MY child.”
It was loud enough that people were staring and I was really embarrassed.
Then we got home and I put the baby to bed and then he tried to initiate sex with me. I told him I wasn’t in the mood after what happened at the airport, and he lost it and said I shouldn’t put sex in his head by calling him sexy and then not have s*x with him. I told him I would’ve been up for s*x had he not snapped at me! He turned and left our house and I haven’t seen him in almost two days.
I tried calling him and just got a text back that said he wants space to cool off so he “doesn’t do something he’ll regret.” I told him to come home NOW as I’ve been alone with the baby for 2 days and it’s New Years but he won’t.
Should I give him space or give him an ultimatum?